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The picture above is the sign hanging out at the front foyer of her house when I dropped some food to her. I mentioned to her that the sign may seem abrupt and unfriendly to her students and their parents, in a later conversation via messenger. It was just my opinion; I didn’t intend to “correct” her.

She first replied to me saying that she is an artist and is very into the arty business etc. Then she further explained that there was someone raising hell in her place a while ago, policeman were called in so she needs a sign like this to warn people etc. I did not quite agree with her, saying it still seems inappropriate to me as a music teacher, if you appear to be a drama queen all you attract is drama… then she became hysterical. She then kept moaning that she has depression, had suicide attempts and now she is shaking while typing to me.

Give me a break. As a long term patient, that has suffered from postnatal depression, bi-polar, anxiety attacks and PTSD… you name it. I told her that I am a “senior” patient; it’s not a big deal to brag about one’s mental illness. I don’t buy it.

I totally understand that she was just trying “threatening” me to cope with her ideology. When it failed, the strategy then changed into playing victim to reverse the defeated battle… if there’s one? I did not intend to fight with her at all. The conversation then stopped.

She then sent me a big write up via word document while I was off line in English. She said, she can't express herself fully in Chinese, therefore she must write it in English. I don’t want to see what your bloody life history either or even confession, I am not your psychologist or counsellor. So I deleted it without opening it.

I texted to her via LINE to apologise if I have acted inconsiderate that day and told her that I did not want to see her write up, therefore I deleted it. Soon after, she sent that file again, instantly after I had just told her I didn’t want to read it. This really upset me. I told her if she has mental problems she should seek medical help, not threaten people by dramatizing symptoms. I also attached some YouTube video about mental health for her.

Today, I just found that she has put on her fb a post teasing about this incident saying that her sign has offended me so much that it made me send 12 messages to her saying she needs help.

Excuse me? Aren’t you the one that confessed to me that you have depression and suicide attempts? Are you lying, or just don’t want yourself get treatment? Instead, you think, it is other people having problems and that are always giving you all problems? You were once in my house, with your homestay student, talking loud on the phone complaining that one of our friends would not write a support letter for you to use in the court for your custody fight with your ex-husband. You were very loud in Cantonese saying “stay away from Chinese community to avoid drama” while I am in the same community and do you think that I don’t understand what you are saying or just being so stupid?

To be honest, I have never had any so called “frienememy” in my life. I only have friends, or not my friends. She is definitely not one from now on.

Everybody should look after his/ her own shit. I just had done mine.

Thanks for your time reading and sorry for being a winger today.

21/4/2019